Codependency isn’t about being weak, needy, or “too much.” It’s about how safety, worth, and connection get organised in relationships — often quietly, often for very understandable reasons. Below are three signs that commonly show up when codependent patterns are active. Your Self-Worth Depends on Other People’s Reactions One of the clearest signs of codependency is when your sense of
What is Imposter Syndrome? Impostor syndrome is the persistent belief that your success is undeserved and that, sooner or later, you will be “found out” as a fraud — despite clear evidence of competence, ability, or achievement. People experiencing impostor syndrome often: Attribute success to luck or timing Downplay their skills or knowledge Set unrealistically high standards Live with chronic
That running commentary in your head that says, “You’re not good enough,” “You’ll mess this up,” “Who do you think you are?” — that’s not motivation. That’s the inner critic. And when it’s loud enough, it shapes how you see yourself, how you show up in relationships, and what you believe you deserve. Low self-esteem isn’t just about a lack
Self-esteem is one of those concepts everyone feels but few can clearly define. People often arrive in therapy saying they feel “not good enough,” “too much,” or “never quite secure.” Underneath many of those experiences sits self-esteem — how you see yourself, value yourself, and expect to be treated by others. This article explains what self-esteem actually is, how it
In person-centred therapy (PCA), the counsellor does not diagnose, direct, advise, or “fix” the client. This is not because the counsellor is passive or lacking skill, but because the therapeutic relationship itself is understood to be the primary agent of change. The counsellor’s role is to create and sustain the relational conditions that allow the client’s natural capacity for growth
Organismic Self vs Self-Concept (Person-Centred Therapy) In person-centred theory, one of the most important — and most misunderstood — ideas is the difference between the organismic self and the self-concept. Students often confuse these terms or treat them as abstract philosophy. In practice, they explain why people feel anxious, inauthentic, or stuck, and why therapy focuses so heavily on emotional
What Is a Weighted Blanket? Weighted blankets are exactly what they sound like — blankets filled with glass beads or tiny pellets that make them heavier than your average duvet. The added weight provides deep, even pressure across the body, which can create a sense of calm and security. It’s similar to the soothing feeling of a firm hug or
The core conditions sit at the heart of the person-centred approach. They are not techniques, skills to be applied, or attitudes to be switched on and off. They describe the relational climate required for psychological growth. Developed by Carl Rogers, the core conditions explain why therapy works when it works — and why change struggles to happen when they are
In the person-centred approach, Carl Rogers introduced the locus of evaluation—a simple yet powerful way to understand how we judge our own worth, make decisions, and understand ourselves. Put plainly, it’s about whether you look inside yourself or outside yourself to know what feels right. Internal vs External Locus An internal locus of evaluation means you trust your own feelings, values,
What is cold water therapy? Cold water therapy involves immersing the body in cold water — typically between 10 °C and 15 °C (50–59 °F). It can take the form of a quick cold shower, ice bath, or a dedicated cold-water immersion tub. Although this practice has roots in ancient Greek and Roman bathing traditions, it has surged in popularity
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