The Benefits of Person-Centred Counselling
Person-centred counselling is one of the most empowering and human therapeutic approaches available. Instead of telling you how you should feel, think, or behave, it creates the right emotional conditions for you to understand yourself on a deeper level. When people finally feel safe enough to explore their thoughts honestly, something shifts — clarity develops, […]
The Locus of Evaluation: Understanding Where Your Sense of Worth Comes From
In the person-centred approach, Carl Rogers introduced the locus of evaluation—a simple yet powerful way to understand how we judge our own worth, make decisions, and understand ourselves. Put plainly, it’s about whether you look inside yourself or outside yourself to know what feels right. Internal vs External Locus An internal locus of evaluation means […]
Conditions of Worth
Conditions of Worth: How They Shape Us (and How Counselling Helps You Break Free) If you’ve spent years bending over backwards to please people, keeping the peace, or putting your own needs at the bottom of the pile… welcome to the world of Conditions of Worth. They’re sneaky, exhausting, and most people don’t realise how […]
Growth Through the 7 Stages of Process in Person-Centred Therapy
What Are the 7 Stages of Process? The 7 Stages of Process is a framework developed by Carl Rogers in On Becoming a Person. It maps how individuals grow in self-awareness, emotional expression and authenticity through therapy. It’s a compassionate model that recognises that change unfolds gradually, step by step. The Origins & Context Rogers introduced […]
Transference in Counselling: Understanding the Invisible Guest
Imagine walking into a therapy session and suddenly feeling angry, anxious, or overly attached to your therapist — even though they’ve done nothing to cause it.That emotional reaction might be transference in action. In my clinical work as a BACP-accredited psychotherapist specialising in trauma and EMDR, I see transference as one of the most revealing […]
Functional Freeze: Understanding and Easing the Hidden Trauma Response
What is a Functional Freeze? The term “functional freeze” describes a state in which someone appears outwardly capable and engaged but internally feels disconnected, numb, or overwhelmed. It’s a trauma response shaped by the nervous system’s need to protect the body in situations where escape or resistance is not possible. Unlike the classic “fight or […]
Understanding the Window of Tolerance
Navigating life’s ups and downs can be difficult, especially when trauma or chronic stress impacts our ability to stay balanced. The Window of Tolerance is a simple yet powerful concept that helps us understand how we respond to stress and why we might sometimes feel “off” or overwhelmed. It’s particularly useful for those exploring trauma […]
Title: Understanding Bipolar Eyes: The Subtle Signs in the Window to the Mind
When we talk about “bipolar eyes”, we’re not referring to a formal clinical diagnosis, but rather the subtle shifts in expression and eye behaviour often noticed in individuals living with bipolar disorder. These changes can sometimes serve as non-verbal cues indicating whether someone is experiencing a manic or depressive episode. Eyes are often called the […]
Understanding the Fear of Long Words: Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia
The fear of long words, ironically known as hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia, is a real but uncommon phobia that can cause anxiety and distress for those affected. While the name itself seems like a cruel joke, this condition is linked to broader anxiety disorders and can impact confidence, communication, and everyday life. What Is Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia? Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia is classified […]
Relationship Counselling
What is Relationship Counselling? Relationship counselling, also known as couples therapy or marriage counselling, is a form of therapy that aims to help couples resolve conflicts and improve their relationships. Benefits of relationship counselling Relationship counselling can offer numerous benefits for individuals and couples experiencing difficulties. Some of the key benefits include: Improved Communication Skills: […]