In the person-centred approach, Carl Rogers introduced the locus of evaluation—a simple yet powerful way to understand how we judge our own worth, make decisions, and understand ourselves. Put plainly, it’s about whether you look inside yourself or outside yourself to know what feels right.
Internal vs External Locus
An internal locus of evaluation means you trust your own feelings, values, and lived experience. Your compass is inside you. You’re able to tune into your needs and make choices that feel authentic.
An external locus of evaluation is the opposite. Here, approval, expectations, and opinions from others carry more weight than your own inner voice. You might look for reassurance, struggle to trust your instincts, or feel unsure unless someone else validates you.
For many people, especially those who grew up with criticism, pressure, or conditional acceptance, an external focus becomes the default. And that can leave you feeling disconnected from who you really are.
If you’re exploring this for your counselling studies, On Becoming a Person is one of the clearest introductions to Rogers’ ideas about valuing yourself from the inside out.
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Rogers believed every person has an innate drive towards growth, authenticity, and self-fulfilment — the actualising tendency. But this can become distorted when we learn that love or acceptance must be earned. These are called conditions of worth.
Examples include:
being praised only when you achieve
being accepted only when you behave a certain way
being valued more for pleasing others than expressing yourself
Conditions of worth push us towards an external locus of evaluation. Instead of listening to our own needs, we start chasing approval. We learn to ignore ourselves to stay “good”, “liked”, or “acceptable”.
Many students find it helpful to pair this understanding with a skills-based text, such as Counselling Skills and Theory, which explains how external and internal evaluations show up in real therapeutic work.
Rogers saw therapy as a place where people could gently reconnect with their internal voice — the one that has often been ignored for years.
Counselling and the Shift Back Inward
Person-centred counselling creates a relationship built on three core conditions: empathy, unconditional positive regard, and congruence.
This therapeutic environment helps people feel safe enough to:
explore their feelings honestly
notice where they’re living for others rather than themselves
question long-held patterns of people-pleasing
reconnect with their own values
Someone stuck in a career chosen to keep others happy, for example, may slowly realise they’ve never asked themselves what they want. The counselling process allows that awareness to surface and be explored without pressure or judgement.
Over time, self-trust grows.
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When your worth is tied to external approval, your self-esteem becomes fragile. One negative comment, one mistake, or one disappointed person can knock you off balance.
When your worth comes from within, self-esteem becomes steadier and more resilient. You begin to choose relationships, boundaries, and life decisions that align with who you are — not who you’re expected to be.
Clients often describe this shift as freeing. They stop chasing roles that don’t fit, stop trying to be everything for everyone, and start living in a way that feels more honest.
Signs You’re Living With an External Locus of Evaluation
People with an external orientation often show patterns like:
needing reassurance before making decisions
feeling guilty when setting boundaries
prioritising others’ needs over their own
anxiety around disappointing people
difficulty expressing their true feelings
relying heavily on feedback to feel “good enough”
These signs don’t mean something is wrong with you — they simply point to learned survival strategies.
Building an Internal Locus: A Gradual, Lifelong Shift
Reconnecting with your internal locus is not a quick, motivational-quote moment. It’s a gradual process of:
noticing your feelings
allowing them to exist
exploring them without judgment
learning to trust them again
If you’re working on strengthening your internal locus, a reflective journal can be a useful way to notice where you’re still seeking approval and where you’re beginning to trust yourself more.
As self-awareness deepens, you start making choices that feel genuinely yours. Life becomes more aligned, relationships become more balanced, and emotional resilience increases.
In a world full of noise, expectations, and pressure, learning to trust your own voice is one of the most healing acts you can offer yourself.
